First Timers

Don't worry if you've never been to a swinger's party  before. Everyone was a first timer once! Here are a few tips to consider if you're planning to come along for the first time.

WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT AT THE PARTIES?

The parties usually start off fairly tame - a room full of exquisitely dressed, beautiful guests having a drink and getting to know each other. Some dance, some sit and some mingle. As the night progresses, things will begin to heat up; clothes will come off, lust will take over and those who wish to participate will start kissing, fondling, licking, and many people will engage in sexual intercourse. Sometimes people pair off, sometimes there are large groups together. Just do what you feel! Nothing shocks us at 'V Adult Parties ', so as long as everyone is safe and having a good time, anything goes.

DO I HAVE TO JOIN IN?

Definitely not. If you want to come along just to watch and soak up the atmosphere, you're most welcome and you won't be the only one. Some people like to just kiss and play with others and will only go all the way with their partner, some girls will only go with other girls, and some get right into the thick of it. It's entirely up to you how much or little you participate, just as long as you're 100% comfortable.

WHAT IF SOMEONE I DON'T FANCY APPROACHES ME?

Don't panic. You're allowed to say no at any point, so just politely decline if they suggest something you don't want to do. Everyone who attends our parties understands that no means no, and will not ask again. Nobody will take offence if you turn them down - there will be over 100 other beautiful people there so rejection isn't an issue! Certainly don't feel obliged to do anything, we want you to have the best experience possible, which means only engaging with those who really do it for you.

HOW FAR CAN I GO?

As long as it's safe, anything goes. We ask all guests to use protection (which is provided free of charge) when engaging in activities with others. Just make sure you ask first if you want to try anything new, as everybody has different boundaries.

WILL MY PARTNER GET JEALOUS?

If you're bringing your partner to one of our parties for the first time, we strongly recommend that you talk it over thoroughly first. There is no room for jealousy at our events. Discuss how far you are comfortable going with other guests and with each other in public; you must both want to share in the experience equally otherwise it will end badly. Swinging is a fantastic way for couples to show off their partners and keep their love life exciting, but if you really want to try it and your partner is hesitant, we would discourage you from attending. You both need to be enthusiastic to make the experience as hot and unforgettable as it should be!

WHAT IF I'M LEFT BY MYSELF?

This is highly unlikely. If you are attending as a single girl, you will find many guests who will take you under their wing and introduce you to friends. As everyone there will have been approved, you will obviously be attractive enough for others to want you. If you are very shy and don't want to approach anyone, our staff are very attentive and will do whatever it takes to put you at ease. In all our history of attending and hosting parties, loneliness has never been a problem!

Here's an account from a genuine first timer. Please note, names have been changed for privacy.

"The first time I went to a swinger's party, I was excited and terrified at the same time. The two weeks leading up to the event passed so slowly, but when I was in the taxi with my boyfriend on the way to the venue it felt like it had come far too quickly! My knee wouldn't stay still, I had the jitters. Paul* had been several times before with an ex girlfriend so he was fine. As we entered, an attractive lady showed us through to the main room where it all looked quite civilised. Everyone was dressed immaculately in evening wear, drinking complimentary champagne. A sigh of relief washed over me as I realised I wouldn't be launched into a mass of naked writhing bodies straight away!

We made small talk with a few people; everyone I'd seen so far looked like a super model. After a few drinks I began to loosen up and feel more comfortable, and plucked up the courage to walk upstairs to the main bedroom. I wouldn't let go of Paul's hand yet! Things were only just getting started - there were two mixed sex couples near each other on the enormous bed, and to girls kissing in the corner. I sat on Paul's lap as we watched more people join in and more items of clothing get discarded. I started to feel quite horny but still apprehensive about participating - what if I approached someone and they weren't interested? A lady who was with her partner on the bed sat up and beckoned me over; I think she had noticed me deliberating! I went over by myself first and began to kiss her. Paul joined us after a minute and the three of us pleasured each other.

After that, my timidness evaporated. It's weird how normal it seems after 10 minutes of seeing people naked! I felt completely comfortable with myself, and a few guests (guys and girls) came and told me how gorgeous I was. It was a real confidence booster, I felt great about myself. 

I've been to another party since and still felt nervous to begin with, but you soon get into the swing of things (no pun intended)!"

Cara*, 24, London